My wife and I have a photo album and a VHS videotape of our wedding. And it’s a good thing, because I missed the whole event.
I was very nearsighted at the time, but my betrothed thought it would be a good idea for me to be married without my glasses on so that I would look better in the pictures.
I’m telling you, I saw nothing the entire day but a soft blur. I was able to recognize large shapes and detect movement, so I gathered that the enormous cotton ball heading in my direction was my beautiful bride.
After the wedding, I eventually put my glasses back on. But even with prescription lenses there were still many things I wasn’t seeing clearly.
When we returned from our honeymoon as newlyweds, we moved in to our first home. But I didn’t see all the baggage we brought in with us. And I didn’t notice all the extra people that followed each of us into the house. I didn’t see that, as we headed into our future together, we brought our individual histories with us.
But, in time, the Spirit addressed my severe “nearsightedness” progressively in three stages:
STAGE 1: SEEING AN IMPOSTOR
I started to notice that it was a little cluttered and bit crowded in our home. So, I unpacked some of my baggage and ushered some uninvited guests out. Seeing how my response to past experiences created a false self represented the first improvement in my vision.
STAGE 2: SEEING THE REAL ME
Then, as I looked in the mirror each day, I began to make out the contours of my own reflection. With steadily improving eyesight, I saw the real me more clearly and was able to start living authentically from my true self. Recognizing my true identity was evidence of more correction in my eyesight.
STAGE 3: SEEING A VISION OF HER
Then one day my vision improved dramatically when the Bridegroom brought into sharper focus an insight about marriage I hadn’t seen very clearly before. The Bridegroom has a beautiful vision of the person my bride will become. My primary role as her husband is to cooperate with Him as He brings His radiant vision of my bride into reality.
As it turns out, on the day my bride and I exchanged our wedding vows, neither one of us was seeing the other–or ourselves–very clearly. Neither of us knew the bride and groom as well as we thought we did.
But with a new set of eyes I see that who we were then is not nearly as important as who we both shall become. The Bridegroom loves His bride with a view to transformation. And He calls us to love one another by participating in the transforming work that He is doing in preparation for a wedding that He has planned.
On that wedding day, I don’t want to miss a thing.
In what ways have you noticed that your vision has improved?